Atelophobia is the fear of not being good enough or imperfection. Atelophobia is classified as an anxiety disorder that can affect relationships and makes the person afflicted by atelophobia feel like everything they do is wrong. Symptoms of Atelophobia can be mental, emotional and physical.
To tell the truth, I was shocked to find out that this is an actual thing! My sweet friend and I were just chatting about how we never feel like we do anything right. She was having a hard time with some things in her life, and oh how I want to help her feel better about herself. She is certainly not alone in her feeling of constant failure. I myself experience this on a daily basis. I started thinking about why we feel we have to do certain things to succeed, or why we need to look a particular way to be beautiful.
First of all, and I’m sure everyone has heard this before, but if we are judging ourselves by the standards of other people we will never please them all. There will always be someone out there who is prettier, smarter, nicer than us. Does that mean we are not pretty, smart, or nice? Nope it just means that we have been judged by others and in their opinion have come up lacking. Often times we are hardest on ourselves. We don’t even need to wait for others to put us down, because we have already done it for them. All these things are what people have decided we need to make us worthy. Worthy of what? Love? Respect? Honor?
1 Peter 4:6
“For this is why the gospel was preached even to those who are dead, that though judged in the flesh the way people are, they might live in the spirit the way God does.”
I want to be worthy of only one thing in my life, and if this is the case I should be able to let everything else fall away. No more striving to be “Perfect” by the standards of this world.
Hebrews 2:10 (ESV)
” For it was fitting that he, for whom and by whom all things exist, in bringing many sons to glory, should make the founder of their salvation perfect through suffering.”
The definition of perfect is being complete and lacking in nothing. So if Jesus was made perfect by the suffering that He went through for us, when we accept Him into our hearts and lives we are made perfect also. God doesn’t want us to go around all sad-faced, and feeling sorry for ourselves, because things aren’t going the way we expect them to. Perhaps, things in our life are happening the way they are because there is a lesson to be learned, or maybe someone will see what we are going through and will be led to serve God by our example of faith. After all isn’t that what our acceptance of Jesus is all about, leading others to the hope that we have found?
” For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body.”
There you have it “WE ALL STUMBLE”. It’s what we choose to do when we stumble that counts. Are you going to throw in the towel because your life is hard right now? Or will you cast your eyes toward the heavens and keep on fighting for what you believe in?
“But he was wounded for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his stripes we are healed.”
If Jesus died on the cross, suffered for our sins, and we are made perfect in Him, what happens when we depend upon ourselves to become perfect? We are taking away the gift our Heavenly Father gave us on the Cross. Jesus came and died for us, because we were never going to be good enough to make it into heaven on our own merits.
“For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Only by Jesus sacrifice can we earn what we would never have deserved. It is by His mercy alone that we are able to avoid a life without hope.
“Let your hope make you glad, be patient in a time of trouble, and never stop praying.”
It is easy to let the people you are surrounded by overwhelm you with their opinions of how you should live your life. I am my worst critic, and find many things lacking in myself that others do not see. Stand strong in your faith! When you find yourself full of doubt, turn to the Word of God, and the One who can lift you up. Surround yourself by people who will do whatever it takes to help you on your path. It won’t always be easy. I believe God puts people in our lives to help us find our way and not look back. I hope that I can be that for someone someday.
“Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it”