In lieu of events taking place today (well, almost today it’s 11:44 PM), I thought, “what better title for a blog could there be.” I actually have another blog mostly finished and ready to go, but here I am typing out a whole new one, as if I have nothing but free time. Let me start by saying, I’m not all that excited about this eclipse. I know there are so many of you that absolutely cannot wait to see this, I just feel kind of “ehhh” about it. If you are excited for this, I hope it turns out to be amazing. Me, I’m more excited about the possibilities for lunch.
Here I was sitting on our old worn out couch, thinking about the eclipse tomorrow. There were at least a few too many minutes spent wondering if I needed to leave 2 hours early for work to get there on time. All of a sudden, I was singing an old familiar tune… “Turn around bright eyes.” I started thinking about how this eclipse is going to cast darkness on the earth for a maximum length of approximately 2 minutes and 40 seconds, depending on your location. You may be wondering, just where is this crazy woman going with all of this? How does one compare a Solar eclipse with an eclipse of the heart? Laugh at me if you must, but that’s just how my mind works.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation that cast what felt like heavy darkness on your heart?
There are at least a hundred opportunities a day to fail, or get sad, discouraged, let down, depressed, or broken hearted. Ultimately, YOU, have the power to decide what you are going to give control to in your life. There are some instances, or at least recently in my case, that you never see the hurt coming. I don’t know when I became strong enough to realize that I could feel the burn, so to speak, but not let it destroy me. When sadness knocks at the door, it can be surrounded by joy if I choose.
“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
Option one goes like this:
You can trust my authority on this option, because I’ve traveled down this path many times. I could wallow and think, “oh poor me, I can’t believe someone would do this to me”. In my mind that is giving power, where no power is due. Honestly, I used to be more of the wallowing type. I would let the situation get me down, and keep me there. That eclipse would’ve lasted a good three weeks at least. Can I get an amen from some of my fellow pity party attendees?
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
Somewhere along the way, a switch flipped and a little lightbulb came on inside of me. I don’t always recognize when someone doesn’t have my best interests at heart, because I try to see the best in people. If I’ve learned one thing it’s how to forgive someone but still have the ability to walk away. Dwelling in that place of, “do you know what he/she did to me” or constantly analyzing the situation to figure out the “why”, really get’s a person(aka ME) nowhere.
This brings us to option number two:
Forgive and forget. LET IT GO. What exactly does forgiveness entail? Do I have to continue the friendship with someone who terribly hurt me? Honestly, I could give you thoughts and scriptures to take this to the extreme in either direction. When God forgives us, the bible says he wipes our sins as far as the east is from the west. Then he forgets them, just like that, they are GONE! How many times do we ask for that forgiveness, and then continue to punish or judge our own selves for the sin that God has promised to wipe away and forget. He loves us no differently.
“I, yes, I alone am he who blots away your sins for my own sake and will never think of them again.”
Many times in my life, I’ve forgiven, and continued the friendship or relationship as if nothing had ever happened. At this point in life, I believe that there are instances where maybe someone was put in your life for just a season. There are those who are meant to teach us some hard learned lessons. Once the lesson is learned, we can’t go back to what we once were. I lost a very good friend recently, right in the middle of a “lesson”. No matter how much I want to go back, I know better. That season in my life has passed.
“He made the moon to mark the seasons; the sun knows its time for setting.”
If you watch closely,(with the proper eyewear of course) the moon will blot out the light and cause darkness for just a little while, but in the end the light will remain.
It’s the same with these situations that we face in our everyday life. The amount of time the darkness, or a pity party, can dim our light… well, that kind of depends on where we are. I don’t mean your location on a map. I’m talking, when was the last time you read your bible y’all? When was the last time you talked to God? When was the last time you stepped foot in a church? Maybe you go to church every Sunday, because it’s what you’re supposed to do. I had a friend one time ask me, “why do I need to go to church?” I think she had asked this question of others from time to time. The answer I gave her, was NOT what she was expecting. She was shocked when I didn’t tell her I go to church because the bible says to, or to make myself feel better, or what ever reason people go. My answer was simple… I go to church because I love God more than I love all the reason that would keep me home. At the same time, I don’t believe “Church” has to be held in a building with a congregation. Sometimes it’s in the car on my way to work, when I just want to sing praise.
I’ve felt God’s presence while sitting in a barn listening to old gospel music, with someone I’ve come to love very dearly.(although he won’t admit he’s pretty fond of me too) I’ve felt it in a conversation with a friend, that came at just the right time. Honestly, I don’t believe church is a place at all. Church is a group of people. Church is a way of life, that delivers kindness at every turn.
If you were to google “churches near me” it wouldn’t be very hard to find 20 or so. How many do you think you would find if you looked for the church as I see it? So many times we let the bad things in life distract us from lifting up those around us. We are so focused on the eclipse in our own life, that we don’t notice the people hurting and broken all around us. I’m oh so guilty of this! I’m begging you friends, please instead of staring at the darkness and becoming cranky and unkind, focus on the aspects of love and be the light during someone else’s eclipse moment.